Tuesday October 21st 2014

Why do I always want to masturbate?

If you are reading this, you are probably feeling upset with yourself for needing to masturbate often. But there are reasons and causes for this type of compulsive behavior. And it might help you to know that you are not alone. An estimated 2-6% of people experience impulsive-compulsive sexual behavior, and one in one hundered men masturbate more than once per day. But if you are part of this population, how normal is self-pleasure? What causes it? And can hypersexuality be treated?

Is frequent masturbation normal?

Frequent masturbation (also known as auto eroticism) is a type of hyper sexual activity that can interrupt your life and affect your social, physical and mental well being. Officially, psychiatrists can diagnose men or women who masturbate excessively as a Sexual Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (Sexual Disorder NOS). More on normal ranges of masturbation frequency here.  But before mental health specialists enter the picture, some other medical conditions exist which can be causing you to want to always masturbate.

What causes me to want to masturbate regularly?

Firstly, too much masturbation can be caused by medical conditions. Physical or mental disorders (or side effects of medications used to treat them) can bring on states of hypersexuality which cause excessive masturbation. Some examples of the medical reasons which can be the reason people masturbate frequently include:

  • Alzheimer’s disease
  • bipolar disorder
  • brain injury
  • impulse control disorder
  • Klein-Levin syndrome
  • Kluver-Bucy syndrome
  • medication side effects (drugs for Parkinson’s disease)
  • use of methamphetamine

Or, people who masturbate excessively may simply do so because hypersexuality is the problem itself.

Regular masturbation can be a type of sexual addiction

Mental health experts still do not agree on what causes hypersexual behaviors such as compulsive masturbation. And they have not yet agreed on how to diagnose addictive sexual disorders. Out-of-control sexual thoughts and acting out, however, can indicate a type of impulsive or compulsive sex problem, which can be treated by mental health specialists. Some specific signs and symptoms of compulsive masturbation include:

  • Excessive masturbation affects work, social, interpersonal, and intimate relationships or responsibilities
  • Feeling loneliness after an orgasm
  • Lack of sexual satisfaction after auto eroticism
  • Masturbating 5–15 times a day
  • Obsessive and compulsive drive toward sexual self-stimulation of the genitalia
  • Physical injury when masturbating
  • Stopping masturbation only after exhaustion, injury, or extreme social pressure

Keep in mind here that the essential feature of sexual addiction is the use of sexual activity (including oneself) to escape intimacy. And if sexual compulsion to masturbate is not driven by this fear, sexual addiction may not be the problem. Top 10 sex addiction signs here.  Nonetheless, if you are experiencing any of the above signs, there is help. And you ARE NOT crazy, or immoral, or dirty. You just need help.

In sum, repetitive masturbation is a symptom of hypersexuality that requires your attention. Too much autoeroticism can be labeled as compulsive, addictive, or impulsive. Regardless of the classification used, this disorder represents a severe burden if you experience it. If you masturbate too frequently, it can cause you emotional, mental and physical stress. You can find help for sex related issues at The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health or the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals. Or post your questions below. We are here to help.

Reference sources: Impulsive – Compulsive Sexual Behavior by Mick & Hollander
Wiki on Hypersexuality

Photo credit: Colin_K

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91 Responses to “Why do I always want to masturbate?
Kris
6:29 pm August 8th, 2011

I have recently found out my husband has been masterbating possibly on impulse. Im not qutie sure. He has been caught at strange time and places. Nowhere outside of our residence. At least that I know of. I have been hidden from it all and a friend and family member unfortunatly had seen him. so of couse they think he is horrible. Obviously I am extremly hurt but I feel there is something more to it. He did not have a good childhood. He did use drugs as a teenager. He may have been abused but he doesnt talk much about it. We have had our ups and downs because of his mood swings and outbursts. Please help he has called to see a therapist but our insurance says that they dont offer anything for this.. I need to try and understand why this has happened he is very embarresed and ashamed.
Pleasw help!

10:24 am August 9th, 2011

Hi Kris. There is really nothing to be embarrassed about. If he is willing to talk about it, I’d suggest that you follow up and schedule an appointment for him, you, and then both of you together. Couples therapy works best when both people are working on their own issues individually.

Get in touch with your local social services office and see what kind of sliding scale outpatient therapy there is in your region. It’s possible that you can pay a minimum fee for counseling, if you look in the right places. Keep asking questions and looking for help!

Koops
12:51 am September 26th, 2011

Hey this is a really insightful article thank you. Why do I sometimes masturbate even when I don’t want to? How many times do I do that which I don’t want to do until I don’t do it anymore? I try not to, like I don’t do it every day. But when I do do it I feel weird for a couple days, I get pains in my stomach and feel really dirty and feel anxious and avoid social situations. But give it a couple days and I’m back to normal again. I hate that after feeling yet I still punish myself every time and do it again. I think life is a test and it’s all about learning to overcome things. I’d sure like to overcome my fleshly urges. I can be fine one minute and bang! A though or image of a woman will come into my head and I look up porn. Sorry for the big comment wanted to share this. Any advice?

Mike. 33.

4:45 am September 26th, 2011

Hi Mike. Self-control is probably the most difficult personal “test” that each of us goes through. I personally think that masturbation is a healthy part of human nature and occasional masturbation once very few days seems to be within the norm. But if you want to examine this further, I’d suggest that you see a psychotherapist who specializes in sex issues called a sexologist. It may also help to direct your urges into other activities such as exercise, music, art or anything else that makes you feel good. But obviously your situation is individual and we’d need to know more about your goals to help more.

Koops
8:07 pm September 26th, 2011

Thanks for the response. It’s good to see someone thinks that! I agree that having self obedience is hard, especially when it’s on a taboo subject such as masturbation where it has been accepted as normal and healthy by society. People today are bombarded with lude TV adverts, movies and incentives to view porn online. It’s talked and laughed about with a light hearted spirit if say someone in a TV program or film masturbates. Plus there’s lots of shows about it today… People care less about what’s decent… Then people see this and with the internet being so easily accessible and society’s youth being much more liberal these days it’s accepted by people as normal and or healthy.

But I wouldn’t agree that a habit such as the despicable one of watching porn and masturbating yourself to this all the time is healthy. Normal yes but not healthy. What starts as a fun and exciting thing to do at an early age for some people can turn into a horrible addiction to suffer from later on. Even to the point that it wrecks relationships and destroys peoples life’s. An addiction to porn can also be very expensive not to mention hugely embarrassing to admit to in person.

Sometimes you don’t want to do it, but you do it anyway, call if force of habit. I’m 33, I’ve had my share of relationships, been in love a few times, eloped and come back. Single ATM but not desperate for a girl and a fairly good looking guy nothing wrong with me. Just hate the way I feel spiritually and mentally after.

So you recommend to masturbate every few days then? Don’t you ever feel like people know from the way you act? Don’t you find it to act normal if you do it too much when you’re around people after? Man I feel well scummy maybe it’s just me. I am done with it now anyway! I see it for what it is and I believe it’s not meant to be. Not when it means committing sick acts of depravity basically like paying for cam sex online and searching for more and more intense porn.

Hey you have to keep a sense of humor don’t you but you can’t let it control you, you have to control it and not sin against yourself and oppose nature by having solo sex with yourself. It’s selfish and there’s nothing in it for you after accept a dead, empty feeling of shame and loneliness after. Still wont stop me though.

John
7:01 pm October 28th, 2011

Hey there, I have a question regarding the topic and I’m scared about discussing this as masturbation isnt really a topic to be shared publicly. But in any case I used to masturbate only twice a week but 3 weeks ago I got this urge and began doing it twice in a day followed by one maybe two times the next. I’m 17 and I really want to stop this as its getting on my nerves. Advice as soon as possible will help, thanks.

lahri
9:36 pm November 2nd, 2011

actually i have got addiction of masturbating from many years and i am very worry about it please tell me the way to quit this habit.

11:29 am December 6th, 2011

Hi John. From what I’ve read, increased craving for masturbation is fairly normal during puberty and part of healthy sexuality. Self-stimulation may be normal, but it certainly is stigmatized! With sexual experience, masturbation may decrease…but if you’re really worried about it, you might pick up the phone and try to call a local sex therapist and ask for a phone consult. Then, you can get a good idea if the behavior has become compulsive, or not.

11:32 am December 6th, 2011

Hi lahri. It sounds as if regular and compulsive masturbation is familiar for you. In order to get help and stop the behavior, you need to understand a little more about the triggers and compulsions that drive masturbation. Check out the AASECT.org for a listing of licensed sex therapist practitioners who can help.

Greg
3:49 pm January 2nd, 2012

I have a question regarding this article. I have been masturbating every day maybe twice or three times a day since I was 9 and I have tried stopping but the addiction and temptation is so great I always fail. What is the best way to stop? I hate it. I get all depressed afterwords and just hate myself. I am 19 and have relationship issues because I try to go too fast which I reckon is also related to my chronic masturbation. I have low self-esteem now because of it. What do I do?!

4:16 am January 4th, 2012

Hi Greg. From what I’ve read, it’s totally normal for young men to ejaculate early during sex…with or without a history of masturbation. Just chalk it up to growing experience and know that PE (premature ejaculation) is common.

In terms of stopping a masturbation habit, you may want to explore this issue with a qualified sex therapist. Healthy sexuality does include masturbation but there may be psychological issues behind the compulsion and obsession and regularity that you describe.

Does this help?

Sarah
8:18 pm February 11th, 2012

HI. Thank you, That was a good article… In my religion it is sin. I am a 33 married woman and I started it when I was 14. I was too lonely in all life. I stop doing it for 2 years after I got married. But unfortunately I started it again. sometimes even I don’t need It. just I do it as a fulling my loneliness & empty time. But after that I feel really bad & I think what I am done was a evil thing. I like to stop it, because in background of my mind who doesn’t it is more successful. I think it’s something abnormal too. Also I guess my anxiety & loneliness & stress direct me to do it. Do you know any references that talk about mental problem that causes masturbation. I will be appreciated If you help me. Because I really feel terrible about my self.

2:13 pm February 13th, 2012

Hi Sarah. It seems like you are approaching masturbation through the teachings of your religion. Have you ever tried to accept the act? Or is masturbation an act that you cannot live with?

Mary
8:00 pm March 22nd, 2012

Hello,

I’m currently a 22 yr old college student who has never had sex, but I enjoy masterbating from time to time when i have some free time like a week long break I tend to spend too much time masturbating. and its affecting my schedule and my social life although no one really knows about it. I need help regarding how to stop. Thank u

4:35 pm March 23rd, 2012

Hi Mary. It might help to look into what triggers frequent or excessive masturbation. Too much time alone? Unplanned schedule? And you can talk with a sex specialist/psychologist in order to decide on what kind of limits you want to have for this behavior. Through individual or partner therapy, a sex therapist can help you work through your sexual concerns. If you need help finding a clinical psychologist, you can consult organizations that represent the clinical practice of sex therapy.

The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists both certifies sex therapists and maintains an on line referral directory.

The American Board of Sexology also has an on line referral directory of sex therapists certified by their organization.

Naomi
10:21 pm April 7th, 2012

Hi there,

I am currently 16 years old high school student, I have never had sex, but I masturbate… a lot. It is so distracting, I get homework and instead of doing that, I sit and masturbate for hours on end, I can’t remember how I first discovered it, but when I had my first ever orgasm I passed out, now I barely get anything but a little pleasure. I only rub myself I don’t actually finger, I sometimes use my electric toothbrush as a vibrator to give a little more pleasure. I really want to stop but I don’t know how and I feel that whenever I sit down at the computer I just automatically do it no matter what I’m doing. Some music makes the experience even better, just stupid things. I sometimes do it without me even noticing which really concerns me. It means that I don’t get my course work done and I feel like it’s draining my enthusiasm and motivation out of me because it’s all I think about. Thank you for reading this :)

2:56 am April 9th, 2012

Hi Naomi. Yes, it does seem like you have a problem with masturbation. It especially concerns me that sexual compulsion is so strong that you masturbate so frequently and unconsciously.

Most sexual compulsions are treated with psychotherapy. Can you ask your parents to support you seeing a therapist? Or talk to a guidance person at school about seeing one?

jhon
6:15 am May 25th, 2012

I think the only way I don’t masturbate is when I smoke marijuana and when I haven’t smoked in days I do it again I need help!!!

11:24 am May 25th, 2012

Hello jhon. If you need help, the best thing to do would be to seek guidance with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual compulsion. You can find help by searching this directory to locate a certified sex therapist near you: http://www.sexhelp.com/sex-addiction-help/sex-addiction-therapists

Eli
10:10 pm May 26th, 2012

Hi, Im trying to stop currently, have been doing it forever and am healthy but theres just this logical/pragmatic side of me that tells me, this isnt a good idea. Although my body is craving it, i mean biology is stupid, i know that, my biology tells me to eat 4 cakes down 4 bottles of beer, if i didnt have a logic i would listen to this, but i do, so i dont. Yet when it comes to masterbation im just too unsure, if i stop would it harm me? i could easily stop, its either listen to it and do it twice a day or once. or dont listen to it and dont do it. I watched a nature programme and theres a mouse that chooses sex over eating and therefore dies. Also dragonflies that have sex and it tires them so they fall and drown. Willingly of course. Now am i wrong to say that this is somewhat true to us aswell, and my urges are obscured and misinformed by tempting images and connotations? As i feel as though im giving alot and it drains me. Thanks would love to know your views regarding this.

7:04 am May 29th, 2012

Hello Eli. Thanks for sharing about your experience and questions about healthy masturbation. I think that we each have the innate ability to have a healthy sex life but it’s a matter of feeling out what is best. As long as we are able to emotionally intimate with a partner (should we choose to have a companion), masturbation can be healthy. But when self-stimulation and fantasizing take the place of real relationships…there can be problems.

If twice a day masturbation feels right for you, I see nothing wrong with continuing. But if you think that there is a problem, you can talk with a sex therapist to help you come to the decision about limits for yourself, and how to deal with the emotional or psychological reasons you masturbate frequently.

vaDer
11:04 am June 25th, 2012

I’d like to say that I started masturbating at 11 frequency from 9 times a day back then to 3 times a day til my early 20s and twice a day til 27 and so on, for the young people here I’d like to tell you something noone ever told us and am a doctor so believe me when I say this when you masturbate focus is mostly on the orgasm and the temporary pleasure associated with it and overtime done repeatedly and if just done in a hurry it can lead to premature ejaculation and cause much problems for you and your partner later in life, edging is a much better alternative and helps you quit your masturbation addiction if you make a point to come less and less often and then completely quit if you feel like.you can research edging it might just be just the lesser evil but I can help you be able to curb your impulses better, I overcame mine and do it only when I want to not when my member wants me to,best of luck on your quest :-)

Ajay
5:36 am June 28th, 2012

Hi, I am 27 years old. I am addicter of masturbation from 15-16 years. I does this atleast daily. I try hard to leave this addiction but i can’t this because when i try to leave this addiction, after 15-20 days i feel very weak with many pains (Headache, backpane, legs pain), please refer me some medicines or other solutions that can help me.

9:09 pm June 28th, 2012

Hi Ajay. The best way to deal with masturbation addiction is, in our opinion, talk therapy with a certified sex psychologist. Is this possible where you live?

Ajay
12:41 pm June 29th, 2012

No. it is not possible.

8:51 pm June 30th, 2012

OK. Then, I’d suggest that you search for an online therapist who can work with you via Skype. Please let me know if you need help with this.

lalaji
11:01 am July 3rd, 2012

i am a 15 year old boy now. i started the habit of masterbating since i was 14. now it is my habit . once or twice a day is very normal . sometimes it can go upto 5 times a day . i fell depressed after doing it . but after sometime a am normal . now i want to leave it because i noticed that i have become an addict which i dont want to because it can ruin my social, mental,physical life. can you help me please ???

9:40 pm July 3rd, 2012

Hi lalaji. Frequent masturbation can be controlled when you understand the triggers and impulses that compel you toward this type of sexual activity. I’d suggest that you look into the FREE program of SMART Recovery, which can be used for any compulsive behavior. Check out their website, and especially look into the TOOLS section of the site to learn more about how you can help yourself stop masturbating.

nicky
3:40 am July 31st, 2012

hey i know this is not normal but when i was 9 i started masturbating like twice a wek but now i am a 13 year old girl and i masturbate like 5 times a day and i just cant stop myself.
i cant tell my parents because i know they would kill me if i did and i dont want to see a therapist
ps; i never had anything wrong with my past and i am not stressed out or anything so what causes this
everytime i try to stop i just cant cause i always feel like i have to touch my self for no reason at all

1:02 am August 1st, 2012

Hi Nicky. IT might be that you’re going through a normal phase of human sexuality and have increased libido at the moment. Does masturbation get in the way of having relationships with other people or serve as an escape? Do your grades at school or your activities after school suffer because of it? Do you have any adverse side effects to report as a result of regular masturbation?

nicky
2:26 am August 1st, 2012

no it doesnt affect my normal life

11:10 am August 1st, 2012

Hi Nicky. I am not an expert. I do have some personal experience with this. If you notice that the urge to masturbate DOES NOT go away and that it bothers you in another 6 months, talk to your physician about it. Request complete privacy, and your doctor should be able to advise you on what to do next. Perhaps seeing what other teens do in terms of frequency and patterns of masturbation can also help:

http://www.gurl.com/2011/02/03/survey-says-masturbation-and-self-exploration/

jon
6:43 pm August 22nd, 2012

Masturbation like any other sin is a desire of the flesh. It is of Satan.
With a lot of effort you can get free by the power of Jesus Christ. There are two parts to masturbation a spiritual and brain dopamine issue.

nicole
6:43 pm August 23rd, 2012

I hope someone can help me . I am 27 yr old female; I always have the urge to masturbate at least 3 times a day and I am always depressed and just want to lay in bed or sleep all the time. I have always been a depressed type person but never been this bad to where I dont even want to clean my house or even be around people. any ideas on what could be wrong with me? please help

6:41 pm August 24th, 2012

Hi Nicole. Depression indicates low energy in the body and mental state. There are many lifestyle changes that you can make to improve energy. However, you might also want to talk with a psychologist or psychotherapist to work on the mental beliefs that you have about life and to re-program your mental state for enhanced living. Are you open to seeing a counselor and talking about the underlying issues that compel you to masturbate to feel good?

Nicholas
3:23 am September 3rd, 2012

Hi. Reading some of these posts makes me feel a little better to know others are struggling with the same things. I have struggled with excessive masturbation for years, since early in high school to now (age 36). It does affect my life in a very negative way. I put things off, I’m late to work sometimes, I hole myself up for whole days sometimes going back and forth from the computer masturbating. I think today I’ve masturbated seven times.

I understand masturbation can be a healthy part of life, but it is far from a healthy thing in my life. It makes me sick that I can’t stop. I have been in and out of counseling. I went for a couple of reasons but excessive masturbation was pretty much tops on the list. As we talked the counselor thought that ADD/ADHD was also an issue.

I feel totally incapable of stopping or have any control. I’ve read enough to know that some go through 12 step programs, but I don’t think that’s for me considering I don’t claim to know the exisistence of God or not. I’ve now moved half-way across the country. My wife will be following in another month or so. However, the last 2 weeks here by myself has been a real low point for this behavior, staying up until all hours of the night masturbating.

I started a new job last week and I really want a clean slate. Although masturbation didn’t cost me my last job, it contributed due to getting to work late because of masturbating in the mornings, etc. I know it affects my relationship with my wife, as we have next to no intimate life. I think it also affects my ability to live life to fullest, establish relationships, and so on because of the time I spend masturbating. It’s horrible. I’m so worn down, so tired after battling this crap for so long. Any advice for a guy trying to break this death grip of masturbation?

11:39 am September 3rd, 2012

Hi Nicholas. You sound motivated to change your behavior and miserable in a cycle that no longer seems to work for you. I’d suggest that you start by reading the book, “A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction” http://www.compulsionsolutions.com/couples-guide-to-sexual-addiction.html

In this book you’ll find easy-to-understand explanations for compulsive masturbation, plus practical exercises you can start RIGHT NOW to get it under control. Please check it out and let me know what you think.

Spidermunkee
5:54 pm September 24th, 2012

I jerk off like a spider monkey and love it. I dont care who knows. I try to cum like 5 times a day to stay on schedule.

Rafael
8:26 am November 25th, 2012

I am a an 18 year old young man. I found my self addicted to masturbation. Because of such, I masturbate whenever I see an image that may inspire my sexual urge. My problem now aside form this addiction is that I am “sexually attracted” to both sexes. Although deep inside me I know I am not gay, but I am now paranoid. So my questions are; Do these sexual urges or compulsive masturbation mean that I am gay? and what are some practical and simple ways for me to at least solve this problem by myself? Thank You!

10:14 am November 25th, 2012

Hi Rafael. Thanks for your honest question. Human sexuality encompasses a whole range of sexual attraction. And while being attracted to the same sex may not mean that you are “gay” it might help you to talk the issue over with a therapist who has experience in sexuality. These therapists are called sexologists or sex therapists. There may not be a label for what you are experiencing, but the guilt and remorse need not be present, as long as your sexual urges are healthy and not causing you harm. You can get a referral for a sex therapist from an established sex therapy organization, such as the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists AASECT or the American Academy of Sexologists or by asking your own medical doctor for a referral. Keep in mind that you do not need to meet face-to-face. Therapy sessions can also be completed online or via Skype.

zack
2:21 am December 18th, 2012

i am a 18 yr old man and i want to do it at least once a day is this to much should try and limit myself or is this nothing to worry about,

9:36 am December 18th, 2012

Hi Zack. It really depends upon whether or not masturbation affects your life or intimacy with others. There is such a things as natural, healthy sexuality….but you’ll need to learn what that means for you.

zack
8:42 pm December 18th, 2012

thanks, and it doesnt affect my life or work or any of that. i just want to make sure im not damaging my sperm or anything else down there

Andreas
3:41 am December 31st, 2012

I also have this issue, helppls

Jimmy
12:21 pm January 1st, 2013

I am a 23 year old guy studying at college suffering from Mental OCD. I have a tall fetish (Macrophilia). Since I like women taller than myself, compulsive and intrusive imaginary thoughts about tall women or height comparison between me and women taller than myself plagues my mind all the time and makes me watch videos about tall women on the internet and masturbate at least four times a week. I feel compulsive to masturbate because of those intrusive and compulsive thoughts. I really need help because it wastes too much of my time and energy.

gaurav
7:02 am January 3rd, 2013

Is masterbating once in a day is normal?

3:00 pm January 4th, 2013

Hi gaurav. Hmmm. Interesting question. finding out what is “normal” for us takes into account our personal relationships and sexuality. While masturbating once a day is average, especially for younger men, it may be detrimental to intimacy. It all depends on your outlook and thoughts.

Dena
3:52 am January 12th, 2013

Hi,it’s been 7 years that I’m married to my husband.And thers is some thing that bothers me,and that is; he does masterbation often. is that normal?we do have sex together between 4-5 times a week also.thank you.

7:30 am January 12th, 2013

Hi Dena. If it bothers you, it may help to address your husband’s daily masturbation with the help of a psychologist. It sounds like you personally don’t have a problem with physical intimacy, but he may be using sex or masturbation as a way to “escape” reality instead of having a straightforward relationship with you. Or maybe his behavior is sexually healthy. Either way, if it bothers you seek help from a sex professional.

collins
10:45 pm January 30th, 2013

Hi,
Reading some of these replies has been interesting and helpful for me. I am a normal and healthy 30 yr old man and have been in several off-on sexual relationships since high school. I probably masturbate on average only once or twice a month, but i feel really antisocial afterwards and avoid people. As with a previous post, this only lasts for a day or two and then i am fine again, although i would prefer not to feel that way. One of the main issues is the amount of time that i spend on a computer, maybe 3-4 hours but can be longer. It is negatively impacting my ability to love myself as a person, but occasionally it helps to remind me that i am alive. Would be good to not have such negative feelings afterward though.

Paul Cheezan
9:00 am February 1st, 2013

how and where to get hepl

9:34 am February 1st, 2013

Hi Paul. Search the following websites for more information on getting connected with a sexologist, or sex therapist.

American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists AASECT
The American Academy of Sexologists

Mary
1:04 am February 20th, 2013

Hi,
I’m being through the same phase, I masterbate more that once a day everyday, its just because I’m depressed all the time and I feel masterbation is good stress/depression reliever. But I must accept here that it’s affected my releationship with my family and friends, i’ve become more anti social and confident less, but I can’t see a perfect solution to my problem, can anyone help?

Addison
9:22 am March 7th, 2013

I am a 23 year old woman. I began to masturbate when I was 17, accidentally and found it pleasurable initially. However, since the past two years, I masturbate out of habit. I don’t feel any pleasure, just pain and disgust after doing it. At most times I do it because am aroused and have no other release. But sometimes, I do it because am depressed too. I don’t know what to do. I know it’s not nice and maybe I have a compulsive disorder. Please suggest something. And no, I cannot meet a urologist for personal reasons. So help me.

6:29 am March 9th, 2013

Hello Addison. I would concur that this sexual compulsion has become a problem for you. I’d suggest that you see a counselor to start talk therapy about this issue. You can find a face-to-face therapist or seek counseling online via Skype.

Brian
7:46 am March 12th, 2013

I started masturbating ever since I was like ten or eleven years old when I couldn’t even ejaculate, lol but now the orgasms don’t feel as good as they did then. Why is that??? I remember they felt glorious but now its like meh… Anyways, my main question is, is there anyway to get rid of my hypersexuality without me having to take any medication? Thank you.

Ali
4:36 am March 19th, 2013

This blog of yours really helped me on some aspects. however I still can’t find answers to some of my questions. I have red each comments on your page but none of them match my situation. I started masturbating at 17 and soon after my body demanded more and more of it. I was my high schools best soccer player so I never lacked ladies back then and i had the time for it but now I have a busy schedule with work and University. I train 4x/5x a week and my body still craves for masturbation everyday. I feel terrible. I mean it doesn’t affect my school and work but I feel like my entire week of workout went through drain when i masturbate. I don’t perform at my best and I feel like my bones(wrist and legs) get tinier every time I masturbate. I get weaker than usual “me” for at least 2days and the forth day my body demands for it again. Im planning on to go on national fitness champion next year but i hesitate because of this uncontrollable act in me. I believe you have more knowledge than me regarding this subject. Please help!

Thank you
- Ali

Rebecca
7:45 am August 10th, 2013

So I am pretty sure I have a problem due to matching many of the symptoms. What do I do to fix it though?

vineet
5:24 am August 18th, 2013

extreme urge to mastubation when there is little pressure in mind.

Austin
7:35 am August 21st, 2013

I am 15 and for 2 long years I have been compelled to masturbate and I don’t want to but when I try to quit I get stomach pains and I feel like I want to throw up. I want to quit but can’t it has really affected my life I want to go to church but cant because im up all night with “cravings” and I sleep until 2:30 in the afternoon I want to tell my mom but im scared and afraid of what she might say my father has passed and I feel like this would be a father-like matter any advise???

joseph
4:47 pm August 24th, 2013

why d o I want to masturbate daily??

yoro
10:11 am October 17th, 2013

Hi i am a student prepearing for medical exam masturbation has badly effected my life now i cannot study i always think of masturbation can anyone please help me

bc123
2:08 pm November 11th, 2013

I just discovered that my boyfriend has a secret Pof account where he invites girls to add him on skype and whatsapp so that he can do video chat with them and exchange photos just to masturbate. I dont know how to deal with this issue, is it something ive done wrong, is he sick, what do I do about it?

Omer
12:05 pm December 16th, 2013

i am very worried i mastrubate a lot and once i ressisted 15 days but again it has become so worse its uncontrollable please help me

Lenin
10:31 am May 2nd, 2014

I mastibate everyday, usually twice sometimes more. I try to stop but it’s hard to resist the urge. I’m quite shy, I have gf as well I see her once or twice a week. But I still feel the urge to wank more often. I’m shy to go doctors. Any possible remedies?

Janqui Talout
12:01 pm May 31st, 2014

Psychiatry is a crock.

Who doesn’t feeling loneliness and a lack of sexual satisfaction after masturbating to an orgasm?

“I masturbated too much when I was younger, especially during my fittest days” said no one ever who grew old and lost his or her sexual drive.

julie
7:55 pm June 13th, 2014

I masterbate daily,otherwise feelweak

terrysage
5:19 pm June 15th, 2014

I’ve been masturbating since I was 6. I can’t stop. I love the feeling so. after the sperm started coming out I just love to watch it squirt out.

terrysage
5:02 pm June 16th, 2014

I no longer try to stop masturbating. I love the feeling so much, especially when watching porn. my favorite thing is watching my sperm squirt out. also I now cam chat, it’s so much fun to have jack off buddies.

Ambi
3:18 am June 27th, 2014

Um……I can see that most of those commenting are guys but…I’m a girl 23 years old. I can remember masturbating as early as preschool and of course until puberty it wasn’t anything truly sensual. After puberty I would do it up to 7 times a day and even at school, I couldn’t stop myself from doing it in the bathroom at lunch. It has persisted and I find myself reluctant to have a relationship for fear of being considered a loose woman. Is there some psychological reason I’m like this or am I just a sensual person.

terrysage
1:52 pm June 27th, 2014

Ambi, I believe that some people just have a much higher libido than others. Although, I do a very good job on anything I do, better than most, I find that kind of release is something I really look forward to. I also masturbate at work during lunch and in the afternoon. Love to be able to climax in just a few minutes. At home I just take my time. I love to watch my pen!$ when I play with it. It’s so much fun that I’m beginning to think there’s something wrong with people who don’t masturbate often.

Chris
12:23 pm July 1st, 2014

I have been fighting with this challenge for too long now, just stumbled on this site in my quest for a solution.
My name is stated above and I am a Nigerian, I have been masturbating since the age of 14 and I am now 41yrs. It all started as fun but now i am addicted to masturbation, in my younger days i indulged with 3 to 6 orgasms, now I maintain 1 orgasm. I am married with 2 kids and it is so sad but true – many of my best orgasms where with myself and I always hate myself for not getting it from my wife. I cannot say what my problem is, but I am in search of a medical explanation. Could it be a terrible head trauma i suffered many years ago? Could it be a drug that have messed up my hormones? Could it be a genetic disorder? Could it be my physiological makeup? I have too many question without any answer. Most interesting is that I don’t even know where to go or which specialist to see. Please I desperately need your help and more importantly answers. Chris

Ivana @ Addiction Blog
9:31 am July 3rd, 2014

Hello Chris. Just about everybody masturbates. It is a very common behavior, even among people who have a partner. The numbers in one national study show that 95% of males and 89% of females have masturbated in one point in their life. It is a good way to experience pleasure and can be done throughout life. Masturbation only becomes problem when it inhibits the coupling with a partner or if it’s done in public. It may also cause distress if it’s done compulsively or interferes with normal daily life and activities.

raju
11:38 am July 11th, 2014

Hi, I’m 26 and I have no girlfriend. When I see a beautiful girl or lady, I want to masturbate. Why is this happening to me? Please help! After masturbation in morning I feel lazy…plz help me

Mendy
7:18 pm July 13th, 2014

I was abused when I was a child. I’m now 34 years old. After 26 years, I still can’t stop masterbating. I am a woman of course. What’s wrong with me?

Tony
1:53 am July 20th, 2014

Although I masturbate frequently, I’m more concerned about the length of my sessions. I edge a lot to prolong the feelings and end up masturbating for hours at a time. When I’m very aroused, I get the urge to message my female friend about what I’m doing. She is a married mother and co-worker who I have never had any romantic relationship with, and I feel very ashamed and regretful after I’ve released, but I can’t control this compulsion. I’m not sure if this problem belongs here, but I wanted to see if you can help me in any way. Thank you

bob
8:14 pm August 17th, 2014

I am addicted to redheaded/gingers and seeing them makes me need to masterbate.

How do I deal with this?

terry
2:07 pm August 18th, 2014

my masturbation sessions are lasting longer all the time. I am doing a lot of edging. unbelievable how wonderful that feeling is.

Norman
3:43 pm August 19th, 2014

I am 18 and I am masturbating too much in week I masturbate daily and in one day I maturbate around 5 to 8 times
I don’t like this I wanna end this I feel so bad about myself I want to stop this addiction
I don’t wanna tell this to anyone but rather I seek help online and I don’t wanna spend money on this because I am still a student and getting my parents to pay for this would enable them to know and when they know I am dead so yeah pls help me I need help

neha
6:12 pm August 28th, 2014

Hi,
I am married for d last 3 years n expecting my first child now. I know my husband masturbates daily ven he wants to sleep. Sex with me doesnt help him getting to sleep. Its very embarassing for me as i feel m not able to satisfy him. Now since we r expecting our first child in some months, it will be embarassing for me as i have a fear what if my child observes his father doing that. I have spoken to my husband but he says masturbation is quite normal and he is not embarassed about that. Pls suggest.

Cambria
5:33 pm September 3rd, 2014

I’m a 22 year old female. I began masturbating when I was about 12 (doing it about 9-10 times a day) and still do it every day, maybe 3 times a day. I don’t think it’s a huge problem, but something that really gets on my nerves is the fact that I CANNOT fall asleep until I finger myself. Even after my boyfriend and I have sex, I need to pleasure myself fully so I can fall asleep. It’s become more of a routine rather than an impulse; I have to do it after I eat or at a certain time everyday, if I don’t then I feel like somethigng is wrog. Somethin else

Nina
6:03 pm September 7th, 2014

I was always chubby as a child, but now I would say I am a full figures woman, 27. When I was 10 a older girl showed me how. I was at her house swimming and afterwards we were changing in her room. I was fascinated at the size of her breast and the hair on her mons pubis. She was 12. I didn’t have any pubic hair yet, but I had a very prominent pubis, still do. I have always had a large clitoris and she noticed it. She asked me if I had ever masturbated, I said no. I didn’t know what the word was. We started touching each other and I have been masturbating 2 or 3 times a day ever since.

Camsfreaks
11:18 am September 17th, 2014

Its addiction , like drugs and everything else .
Anyway nice post !

terry
8:48 pm September 17th, 2014

good for you nina. I always masturbate at least once a day, sometimes twice. I just love the feeling. I don’t think there is anything wrong with us. what are we supposed to do, be like them, wanting an orgasm and afraid to give ourselves one. or such a low sex drive that we don’t care if we cum or not. I think we’re the normal ones. can’t imagine a day without cumming at least once.

James
9:21 am September 19th, 2014

I am nineteen years old and I masturbate more than six times a day. It’s the guilt that is hurting me. I am obsessed with it can my body goes crazy if I go one day without it. I have sought help from my spiritual leader but it didn’t make a difference. I have told members of my family but they all think it’s just something I will grow out of (SOMETHING NATURAL). I even told my doctor and she just thinks it is because I have a higher sex drive and that this is something fixed through marriage. I am out of options here. I am seeking help but no one is willing.

Yasmine
6:39 pm September 26th, 2014

I am a 26 year old female with a man who is so handsome,built sexy and loves me so amazingly and he is consistent with it. However, i find myself masturbating as often as i possibly can. I mean so often even in public bathrooms. At first i thought im a young woman in her mid 20s… this is normal. For MEN!! But then i think back and i remember becoming sexually active at a very young age and have been masturbating before that. To me, this feels normal.Its becoming excessive and I’m never tired of it. I do it more than once a day and guaranteed every single day. No matter the circumstances. Am i addicted to sex? Masturbation? The orgasmic feeling? Or all of the above. Should i see a therapist for this?

Scott
1:54 pm September 27th, 2014

Recently I was just put on Zoloft by my MD, will this help with the compulsive side fr excessive masturbation?

7:19 am September 29th, 2014

Hello Yasmine. I suggest you to read the article “Top 10 signs of sexual addiction”, which you can find here: http://sex.addictionblog.org/top-10-signs-of-sexual-addiction/. It will give you some guidance on what to look for.

Genevieve
9:03 pm October 13th, 2014

hi my name is Genevieve and I’m twenty.i masturbate I believe tht I mature ate to much I guess.inlike the feeling. It does leave me feeling depressed because I’m still a virgin so I feel the only pleasure I’ll ever get is if I pleasure myself. Which again upsets me that it’s come to this. The little things turn me on. I watch porn I know I need help I just don’t know why imaturbate so much I like it but I know it’s not good. I guess I just need someone then I’ll masturbate less if at all. I need help and would really appreciate it. Genevieve -0

grace
9:19 am October 18th, 2014

Am 22 yrs old ad i started masturbating at the age of 15 am i wonder if am normal pliz help

mark
8:26 am October 20th, 2014

Hello i just want to stop my oftentimes masterbation. But i can’t. Everytime i’m alone in my room, in the cr, or in a that no one can see me. I can’t control myself to masterbate. Can you please tell me how can i avoid it?

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