Christian help for sexual addiction: getting started

Sexual addiction affects Christian men, women and families. Learn from an addiction specialist the three things you can do to get Christian help for sexual addiction here.

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How to stop porn addiction (and other sexual addictions)

Before we get started, the obvious is assumed. You must have the determination to stop and be willing to do whatever it takes to succeed and reach your goal. Without the passion to succeed, you will fail and most likely soon. This isn’t a game. This is real life, with real people struggling to change their lives. Denial has no room in recovery. Of course it is also assumed that you have a personal relationship with Christ and that is the relationship that is foremost.

There are specific Biblical paths to recovery, that when followed, will bring resolve. However, it’s ultimately up to the individual to make the decision to change, to stop their destructive behavior, and to go down a healthy path of recovery.

So, what would be the first 3 things I would do to get help for a sexual addiction?

1. Find a meeting

  • Celebrate Recovery :  This is my number one referral for my clients. It is free to attend (they might take an offering, but no one is obligated or expected to give).  Go online and locate meetings in your town. They will probably be held at a local church.  Support and guidance are vital in recovery. It is important to understand that people at these meetings are going through similar scenarios, and are there to get help, not to judge.  If you are a Christian, it is important to surround yourself with others who are of like minds and purpose.
  • Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) :  Go online and locate meetings. They have meetings for online and offline, for both men and women. Check out their website and educate yourself. This may be the only option for you if you live in a small town.

No money
In recovery, money shouldn’t be an issue. If you don’t have money for private counseling, you can still get tremendous free help at the meetings mentioned above. The Bible tells us to pray, one for another, so that you will be healed. Fellowship and community are a tremendous support in Christian recovery.

We all have struggles
Go to a local meeting if possible. If online is the only option, then connect there. Ask for help!  Everyone at these meetings understand and are available to help in whatever way they can. They have all struggled and wrestled with these issues and can certainly relate to what you’re going through.

Plug in by surrounding yourself with supportive people
These meetings can be very effective, however, beware that those running the meetings may not allow the name of Christ to be mentioned (They use – your Higher Power or God, as you have come to know him).

I Guarantee
You will find some of the best life relationship are developed at these meetings. There is something warm and caring about having others that are willing to listen and pray for you that seems to create a special bond that endures.

2. Find a Christian Counselor who has specific training

Be honest with an addiction counselor
Make sure your counselor has addiction training, preferably sex addiction. Remember, you are dealing with your life and future with any addiction issues.  Now is the time to be real and honest with yourself and your counselor. A Christian counselor will facilitate accountability and help you explore the past, which can assist in putting your healing on a fast track.

Worst fears and darkest secrets
A counselor can be your strength and support that can make a huge difference in the first few months of recovery. You can be assured that a supportive counselor understands what you are experiencing and can guide you in the best direction for your specific situation.  You can feel free to share your worst fears and darkest secrets; without feeling judged.

3. Start Now

Don’t put it off. So many people avoid getting help. Realize the longer you put this off, the better chance you will have to either be embarrassed, exposed to disease, or possibly, destroy your closest relationships.

About the author
Dr. Jackson received his Doctorate in Christian Counseling from Omega Bible Institute and Seminary in 2009. He developed the Christian recovery treatment programs for Calvary Rehab Center and the Genesis Center for Recovery. He has trained and practiced Christian Counseling in all areas of drug/alcohol/gambling/sex and relationship addictions. He currently has his own web based online program called 12 Day Rehab Systems, designed for those who can work on recovery while maintaining career and family obligations. Dr. Jackson has been clean and sober since 1984. Learn more about Recovery with Dr. Steve.
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